Friday, November 12, 2010
Recently I came across a person from the church I formerly attended. They were very cool and standoffish. Other than "hi" their total body language was closed out. Facing away from me, not looking at me... and even going over to hide behind a wall.
When my husband and I left the former church we left on good terms with everyone. Everyone knew that we were going to help a new church plant in a community near where we live. I left the women's ministry and my husband the men's ministry. The night that we sat in services knowing that we were going to talk to the pastor about our decision (after much prayer) he announced from the pulpit that the youth/rodeo arena ministry person and his wife had resigned that day! The blood ran from my face when I realized we were going to be telling him the same thing that very night. I sat there and wondered what God was doing in that church.
Since that time we have been working at the new church plant and loving every minute of it. God is flowing, increasing numbers and changing lives. It is no doubt, where we are supposed to be.
We have kept wonderful friendships from our former church with everyone. There were so many wonderful "family" members we knew that we were going to miss terribly.... but, we knew that we'd see them around~ and we have. We've met them for dinner, gone hunting, shopping and visit all that we can uninhibited. Without an ounce of judgment.
Until the day before yesterday.....
All I can say is wow.. I never expected such coldness from such a person. I haven't a clue what I or my husband could have possibly done... but I know whatever it is, is killing them, not me... because I'm not aware of whatever it is. When we left, they acted just fine and dandy...
In the past in dealing with this person (through our own experience and the experiences of others) we know that they are unwilling to talk or work things out with anyone who is in disagreement with them. We tried.
And, so I can go in peace.