Shunning is the act of deliberately avoiding association with, and habitually keeping away from, an individual or group.
Have you ever shunned anyone in your life? Have you ever been shunned by anyone??
Maybe it hasn't been a shunning where a group of people shun one person, maybe it's you shunning someone (or several people), giving them "punishment" for something they've done to you.
Think on this person or these people for a moment. Are you rejecting their friendship or relationship with them due to pride or hurt? Whatever they have done to cause you to poison yourself with bitterness is only hurting you in the long run.
The Bible tells us to not shun that person or those people... it tells us to pull them aside and talk with them. Talk. Ask forgiveness and give forgiveness. Sometimes when we do this, even with a sincere heart that other person does not receive it. Then the Bible tells us to go back with a witness and talk to the same person again. If once again they don't respond in a favorable way, the Bible tells us to take the matter before the church.
It's amazing that anything would go so far as to needing to be presented before a church. I know that it has happened, but it shouldn't be necessary.
I feel that today this blog is timely for someone. Not that I am anyone of importance, but in that I feel God is speaking to someone right where they are at. Today is the day. You can make a huge difference in your life and the life of someone else. Thank goodness for God's mercy and grace that He gives us fresh and new each and everyday. Do you also, bestow that mercy and grace to your family, friends, church community, co-workers...?
Quit shunning in your heart. Do something about it. Follow God's word as in Matthew and take steps to renewing relationships in your life.
Eph. 4:32 “Be kind and compassionate
to one another, forgiving each other,
just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Luke 6:37 “Do not judge, and you will not be judged.
Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned.
Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
Proverbs 17:9 “He who covers over an offense
promotes love, but whoever repeats
the matter separates close friends.”
Matthew 5:44 “Love your enemies and pray
for those who persecute you.”
Matthe 5:23-24 “If you are offering your gift at the altar
and there remember that your brother
has something against you, leave your gift
there in front of the altar. First go
and be reconciled to your brother;
then come and offer your gift.”
Romans 12:17-19 “Do not repay anyone evil for evil. . . .
Do not take revenge, my friends,
but leave room for God’s wrath,
for it is written: ‘It is mine to avenge;
I will repay,’ says the Lord.”
Hebrews 12:15 “See to it that no one misses the grace
of God and that no bitter root grows up
to cause trouble."
Col. 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive
whatever grievances you may have against
one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
James 1:19-20 “Everyone should be quick to listen,
slow to speak and slow to become angry,
for man’s anger does not bring about
the righteous life that God desires.”
Proverbs 29:22 “An angry man stirs up dissension,
and a hot-tempered one commits many sins.”
Eph. 4:26-27 “‘In your anger do not sin’:
Do not let the sun go down
while you are still angry,
and do not give the devil a foothold.”
Ecc. 7:9 “Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit,
for anger resides in the lap of fools.”
Matthew 7:4-5 “How can you say to your brother,
‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’
when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
Romans 12:17-18 “Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
Be careful to do what is right in the eyes
of everybody. If it is possible,
as far as it depends on you,
live at peace with everyone.”